tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post7103449085118770687..comments2024-03-28T19:49:25.268-07:00Comments on Diary of a Frustrated Brotha: To Hell With The WeddingDiary of a Frustrated Brothahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01171143622302626870noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-27805744782732573742023-12-31T09:33:32.428-08:002023-12-31T09:33:32.428-08:00Dobar dan, moj upit o tome kako dobiti kredit za k...Dobar dan, moj upit o tome kako dobiti kredit za kupnju kuće od nekretnina počeo je pozivom, nazvao sam Davidson Albert Company, danas sam jako sretan i Bog blagoslovio Davidsona Alberta Kontakt e-mail: {Davidsonalbertloan@gmail.com }<br /><br />Zovem se Marijana, iz HRVATSKE sam, zadnjih pet mjeseci sam tražila pravu kreditnu tvrtku od koje bih mogla dobiti kredit kako bih mogla kupiti kuću kakvu sam htjela. Dugoročno, bilo je hrpa prijevara zbog kojih sam im povjerovao i na kraju dana su mi uzeli novac bez da su mi dali išta zauzvrat, čak ni 1 euro na moje ime, izgubio sam svaku nadu, bio sam zbunjen i frustriran, nikad nisam želio imati ništa s online tvrtkama za zajam pa sam otišao posuditi novac od prijatelja. Ispričao sam sve što se dogodilo i rekla mi je da mi može pomoći pronaći tvrtku za zajmove koja mi može dati bilo koji iznos zajma koji mi treba i po vrlo niskoj kamatnoj stopi od 3%, također mi je rekla da je upravo dobila zajam od uputio me kako se prijaviti za zajam baš kao što mi je rekla, aplicirao sam s njima putem e-pošte: (davidsonalbertloan@gmail.com), nikad nisam vjerovao, ali sam pokušao, i na moje najveće iznenađenje dobio sam zajam u roku od 24 sati, nisam mogao vjerovati, ponovno sam sretan i bogat i hvala Bogu da takve kreditne kuće još postoje na ovim prevarama posvuda, savjetuju svima koji trebaju posuditi kredit putem e-maila (davidsonalbertloan@gmail.com). Nikada te neće iznevjeriti i tvoj život će se promijeniti kao i moj. Brzo kontaktirajte (davidsonalbertloan@gmail.com) danas i uzmite svoj zajam od njih. Obavezno kontaktirajte DAVIDSON ALBERT LOAN COMPANY za vaš kredit, jer sam uspješno dobio svoj kredit od ove tvrtke bez ikakvog stresa. Posjetite njihovu e-poštu. (davidsonalbertloan@gmail.com)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-56865665774464636212016-04-28T07:35:05.617-07:002016-04-28T07:35:05.617-07:00Very true. And even though both the bride and the ...Very true. And even though both the bride and the groom don't want a big wedding, their relatives take it upon themselves to put all their energy into changing their minds and forming "committees" to raise money. Weddings seem to be the platform for parents and/or aunts and uncles to show off their relation and sometimes use them as an excuse to eat and drink as much as they want at no cost to them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-75356124561417172792016-04-08T02:18:32.438-07:002016-04-08T02:18:32.438-07:00AYE
I would mind not having a wedding but my fam...AYE<br /><br /> I would mind not having a wedding but my family is expecting one from me. Matildah Chinyamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15186299080573774153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-26290033520132023372015-11-06T01:57:34.897-08:002015-11-06T01:57:34.897-08:00Aye! You speak my lingo bro, I am a woman and I do...Aye! You speak my lingo bro, I am a woman and I do not want the stress that comes with some of these celebrations. When I told my mother that I didn't want a wedding she said she would pay for it. What she doesn't get is that whether my man and I have the money or not, we just wanna keep it on the low and like you said, jet off to Mauritius after, am definitely saving up for zat nothing more. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-28316042095450844602015-03-17T08:25:48.837-07:002015-03-17T08:25:48.837-07:00Better late than never....
Totally agree....
I ...Better late than never....<br /><br />Totally agree.... <br /><br />I went to the Civic Centre,....<br /><br />Had a small party and braii afterwards... And we had a Kitchen party later on....<br /><br />Frankly Speaking, i never saw the sense in them years back, but Kitchen Parties make more sense than the Wedding Receptions.....!!<br /><br /><br />So,... Yeah.. AYE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Black Thoughtnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-89492911677674512532014-12-17T14:04:21.002-08:002014-12-17T14:04:21.002-08:00Thank you for reading Anonymous. You have rightly ...Thank you for reading Anonymous. You have rightly pointed out project management is key. You do not start a project if you know that will not have the resources to complete. Diary of a Frustrated Brothahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01171143622302626870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-2237521168768459312014-12-17T06:33:23.025-08:002014-12-17T06:33:23.025-08:00Aye and Aye not!!! I am a Zambian female about to ...Aye and Aye not!!! I am a Zambian female about to get married to a wonderful man and I gotta say sometimes the preps make me wanna elope!!! hence AYE!!! but I love the whole planning experience and the spending ofcos #GottaLoveBoth... I wouldn't trade it for anything AYE NOT!!!. I am a project management junkie so I look at planning my wedding and marriage as my grand project. lol. piece of advice yes plan for the wedding! but more so the life after the wedding.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-44257590105072628802014-10-29T02:38:47.742-07:002014-10-29T02:38:47.742-07:00Wow....I thought this was a Nigerian thing. Seems ...Wow....I thought this was a Nigerian thing. Seems it is an all Africa phenomenon. The marriage is more important than the wedding. Our women should remember that. After all the jamboree on the wedding day, everyone leaves the couple to clean up after themselves. Let's be wise, be reasonable, be realistic...<br /><br />www.africanstorytellers.blogspot.comVictor Emmanuelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01600753529115578806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-88949373301936229412014-09-18T02:01:06.072-07:002014-09-18T02:01:06.072-07:00Very interesting topic and I agree with you weddin...Very interesting topic and I agree with you weddings in Zambia especially are becoming more like some competition of some sort. But really people need to be realist . This mentality of solely depending on a man to provide for the whole wedding expenses is absolutely ridiculous. Of course he needs to provide for me and the family once we married . But why plan extravagant weddings when it's going to financially affect you in your first months of marriage . People gotta sit down plan save up then see the way forward . Plan within your reach and budget. I would rather get a mortgage than splurge on some extravagant wedding ceremony Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00687667166893464588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-25855064441982559212014-09-16T09:13:34.210-07:002014-09-16T09:13:34.210-07:00I would just like to say that as a female I feel y...I would just like to say that as a female I feel your point is very valid. There are women out there who would also like a simple wedding/blessing in church or a lets run down to the register and SAVE OUR MONEY. But it would be taken as unlady-like… and frankly I think people what to live up to other expectations due to culture, social norms and “keeping up with the Banda’s”. I feel this is bizarre especially when you are left broke, yet I have sometimes fallen into this trap. Think as a couple moving into building a LIFE together is important to define who you are as a couple and say “hey we are doing this simple thing, so family fall in line or don’t come”. You might be frowned upon but I think showing a united front in how you wish to be as a couple will only help communicate your message of 'simple and not going broke' before you have even began you married life. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-43826364581790908102014-03-12T09:22:44.057-07:002014-03-12T09:22:44.057-07:00cool! - So with this vie in mind - I figure we'...cool! - So with this vie in mind - I figure we'll go to New York for our honeymoon. Nekodahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13080811387477030859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-4013539604068741952014-02-10T03:30:46.731-08:002014-02-10T03:30:46.731-08:00I recently got engaged. Right after the announceme...I recently got engaged. Right after the announcement (and my splashing of the ring) our two families started to disagree on stuff. The main disagreement being where will the ceremonies be, Copperbelt or Lusaka....neither family wants to travel...smh<br />My fiance and I initially wanted a small quiet garden wedding but now we are at the "You know what, lets just grab a friend or two and go to civic center" point to be honest! And I don't mind it 1 bit.<br />I did overhear my mother saying to her sister that she wouldn't settle for a small event since this will be the first wedding in our family...what do I think? Boo-Hoo! *takes bags drives to civic-centre*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-51524058975599938072013-08-06T20:37:00.095-07:002013-08-06T20:37:00.095-07:00Lol u clearly need new friends.... n am so sad i t...Lol u clearly need new friends.... n am so sad i think some guy on facebook jus copied n pasted your this n put it up as his own tssskAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06441987875216509140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-57550077944488383872013-08-06T13:41:38.837-07:002013-08-06T13:41:38.837-07:00Hi Anonymous,
That is my whole point from the ver...Hi Anonymous,<br /><br />That is my whole point from the very beginning. Invest the money for your children. If you are a millionaire yes have the wedding but like most of us are not why spend all that money jst for one day. And the reason is so you mum or relatives can brag about something and keep themselves busy towards the wedding, aikona.Diary of a Frustrated Brothahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01171143622302626870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-1588510153865609362013-08-06T13:39:20.292-07:002013-08-06T13:39:20.292-07:00Hi Mwiza, my bad for generalisation but none of th...Hi Mwiza, my bad for generalisation but none of the females I know think like you. They want their dream wedding or even a crumb of it come rain or sunshine. It is quite sad to see sometimes even those who cannot clearly afford it, want the unnecessary pressure.Diary of a Frustrated Brothahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01171143622302626870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-71591178014139247892013-08-06T08:33:21.187-07:002013-08-06T08:33:21.187-07:00I agree with you. I think people shud learn to liv...I agree with you. I think people shud learn to live within their means.some of the amounts pipo spend on weddnz they can even buy plots and other well meaning things that will be of use to them and their kids.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-74406314021776055702013-08-06T05:19:02.485-07:002013-08-06T05:19:02.485-07:00Am a lady n u have read my mind thats EXACTLY wat ...Am a lady n u have read my mind thats EXACTLY wat am doin honeymoon paris even saving apa fpr it... sooo lol say SOME females its not all of us..... generalisations.........Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06441987875216509140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-65706322697044944212013-07-30T06:32:39.848-07:002013-07-30T06:32:39.848-07:00Aye..ayeAye..ayeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-26580670292484760542013-06-26T11:26:19.008-07:002013-06-26T11:26:19.008-07:00Hi Anonymous, I have friends whose family are maki...Hi Anonymous, I have friends whose family are making all these elaborate wedding plans and yet no one gives a ngwee. You would think they want the weddings they never had. I think families sometimes just want stories to tell. But we must get past that. There is no law that says we should all have weddings. Good for you stand your ground.Diary of a Frustrated Brothahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01171143622302626870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-33807889900290379932013-06-26T11:23:21.308-07:002013-06-26T11:23:21.308-07:00Hi Anonymous, eish we need more women like you. I ...Hi Anonymous, eish we need more women like you. I think it just depends on whether one wants to be swayed by friends and family and refuse to face reality.Diary of a Frustrated Brothahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01171143622302626870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-72819170056768601452013-06-26T06:34:17.173-07:002013-06-26T06:34:17.173-07:00Finally people who can reason..eish! wish i could ...Finally people who can reason..eish! wish i could drag my relatives from the village to this blog! then all my worries would end....sometimes though,in my case for example,the family DEMANDS one and does a ka tools down for you whn they actually nid to be helping make the payments!.. however,my encouragement to all brides to be who dont want a wedding reception like me....stand your ground.... even if thy complain n say stuf.. stand your grounds....like I am doing...no reception...PERIOD!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-72875295560251233822013-06-18T07:25:52.872-07:002013-06-18T07:25:52.872-07:00Hi. I'm Zambian and female and couldn't re...Hi. I'm Zambian and female and couldn't really be bothered with a wedding either,regardless of whether I can afford one or not!! the thought of entertaining people I hardly know doesn't go down too well with me.. call me cynical but don't really think it's worth the stress, prefer a shopping honeymoon myself!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-81360109372329880952013-04-12T06:18:17.991-07:002013-04-12T06:18:17.991-07:00Interesting article just a few months ago my then ...Interesting article just a few months ago my then girlfriend and her friends, as we were at the brothers wedding...lovely wedding by the way'...But I couldn't help but listen to what wedding plans and expectations she had for Us already when am still in my final year university...considering the fact that for her 25 is around the corner and time is running out for her...she was so short sighted at reality..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-76035962353111953372013-02-19T09:25:54.326-08:002013-02-19T09:25:54.326-08:00Hi Anonymous, you are right live within your means...Hi Anonymous, you are right live within your means. If you cannot afford it don't have it, if you can then go ahead. It all about do you have the finances for the weddingDiary of a Frustrated Brothahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01171143622302626870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8855057824542728030.post-13539815494111394702013-02-19T08:13:17.287-08:002013-02-19T08:13:17.287-08:00Like someone above said,Live within your means.If ...Like someone above said,Live within your means.If the guy is sincerely unable to provide a wedding but has the burning desire to marry and treasure you regardless,I say go for it.However,some guys, can well afford to fork out millions for a car but not have enough for a wedding?? A sacrifice is valueless if its given to one who will never appreciate it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com