Tuesday, 16 September 2014

Juliet's Blackophobia and The Post

Dear Juliet,

I want to give you a hug at this moment, I pity you. At 21 years old you still bear the naivety of a 5 year-old. After I have given you a hug, I want to shake you so hard that you wake up from the slumber that you seem to be in. Most girl's childhood dreams are to be princesses, doctors, lawyers, nurses, and models but there is you. Your childhood dream has been to marry a white man because you think that us black men are violent and do not treat our spouses properly. I want to give you another hug.
The Post Newspaper Friday 12 September 2014 Front Page
You claim that you are a virgin and have never had a boyfriend, I am a bit confused at how then you came to the conclusion that black men are violent and do not treat their spouses right. I assume that you draw your conclusion from what you have read in the newspapers or have seen happen to your neighbour. In the same vein, for you think that a white man will treat you better may stem from something you have seen. It is immature to stereotype an entire race just because of one unfortunate incidence that you might have know.

The Blackophobia that you have needs to be treated. Touch. You live in a country where the majority of the men are black, therefore you would expect that most of the abuse stories you read or hear will involve black men. Do not be fooled issues of violence or spousal mistreatment are not a race issue. Abuse related cases are found in all races. Instead of you seeing us as abusers, it is time you looked at what led to your blackophobia. There is a deep rooted problem that you need to overcome and using us your brothers as you call us as an excuse will not solve your troubles.

On the other had I think that you are confused too. How can the same person who claims that a white man  has strong and unconditional love for their spouses and respect for their wives be then afraid to leave the country with them. If you will be safe in their hands shouldn't you then be safe wherever you will be? The same trouble you took in advertising in The Post newspaper that you were looking for a white man is the same way you should advertise that you are seeking help. This is not an issue about the colour of the man's skin, these are psychological problems.

 I am also further intrigued at how The Post newspaper could dedicate an entire front page of their daily newspaper to you. No offence to you, but you are not news worthy that you should warrant a front page headline. I think an insert just before the classifieds would have done you justice. There are far more important news worthy stories that The Post newspaper could have placed as a headline rather than you. On the other hand, I am thinking of going to fart by the fly over bridge, do you think I can get on the front page too?

Yours sincerely,
Frustrated Brotha


  1. Lol you have made me laugh. Please do the fart and I will contact them. The one who put her as front page should be fired. She's a disgrace!

    1. Chisanshi you will know when it makes the headline soon.lol. There is something wrong in that editorial room

  2. Dear Juliet

    I also advise that if you looked intently in the classified ads, you will discover a number of people who can help you achieve your dream. They go by names such as Dr or Professor this and that and will help you get married to a well to do white man.

  3. Interesting write up and interesting that in the Jubilee most Zambians don't know
    (1) superiority and inferiority complexes
    (2) that advancing virginity through self advertising in the mainstream media is selling sex (only) to represent marriage thus prostitution or better still sex/human trafficking
    (3) the women movement campaigning for freedom of women from men, marriage and battery will not comment or counsel a young woman because they too are interested in white men or being white women
    (4) Zambian men too want to be white men or be Americans or Europeans.

    1. Hi Anonymous, you are very right. You raise valid points and how the women movements are silent on this is shocking

    2. They are quiet maybe because they think her fears (not exactly her dreams) are justified. Yes even among the whites domestic violence is there and it has one thing in common with that in zambia. Women more than men are get to be victims. One lesson to focus on from this is that this country and many others need to start talking about how we can relate better to avoid domestic violence which affects both men and women.

  4. Frustrated Brotha,

    Nice open letter to our dear beloved Juliet. i don't know really what the remedy or cure to her problem is as I believe in this day and age such thinking can only be diagnosed as a mental disorder.

    But i wouldn't want to be too harsh on her, as it is common for most people to stereotype others and bunch them up based on an experience they could have had once from one individual.

    1. Thanks Patrice, yeah we will find stereotypes but we need to erase some very dangerous stereotypes like these

  5. I read 'dedicate' in the last paragraph as 'defecate'. Not too off the mark, I feel.